Tip one:

to survive almost anything that humanity will throw at you, you need to have a happy place....

when were young we don't face the same monsters that we face when we grow up, we don't worry about paying bill's or getting food on the table that was always left for someone else to do for us. So we don't need a "happy place" to calm us down, but the moment that we grow up things change

DRAMATICALLY.

and some days we just really can't handle that change, like when the weather changes from hot to cold we get storms or we get sick. That's what happens to us when this dramatic change comes along when get all riled up like a storm and get into fights with people that have done nothing wrong or we get sick. sick of reality, sick of our life.

note that getting sick of humanity is a lot worse than getting mad at it.

why? you may be thinking that, when you get mad you throw a few punches, get some bruises and broken bones but that can all heal in time, six weeks in most cases.
when you get sick it leads you more into a depression and depression is a tricky thing.

depression can make you feel lost, scared and a number of other things, so it is wise to have this happy place on stand by.

 

is always out there if your happy place just so happens to fail you, DO NOT FREAK OUT if this happens to you. there is other help out there.

Depression: An illness that involves the body, mood, and thoughts, that affects the way a person eats and sleeps, the way one feels about oneself, and the way one thinks about things. A depressive disorder is not the same as a passing blue mood. It is not a sign of personal weakness or a condition that can be wished away. People with a depressive disease cannot merely "pull themselves together" and get better. Without treatment, symptoms can last for weeks, months, or years. Appropriate treatment, however, can help most people with depression - http://www.medterms.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=2947

YOUR HAPPY PLACE!

is what ever you want or can imagine it to be.
sometimes finding your happy place can be difficult because you don't really know what it is you like, and that's OK.
so lets start simple, start by just closing your eye's and taking a few deep breaths to slow you heart beat.

then imagine that everything it white.
once you have that pick a colour, any colour will do.
and then pick objects or people that you hate or like and then throw that colour over it/them

and then see how you feel.